fear of missing out (?) nah!

I have a friend who, from my perspective, fears missing out. She talked to me about what others already did and asked me to help her accomplish one thing among what others already did. “Help me to do this because I saw them do this, and I want to do the same.”

I said okay. She persuasively tries to make me feel that fear of not doing the same. My brain responded to what she said, “I don’t need to do that since my super professional work and true personal life are matters. I only share that with a specific person who needs to know that. Freely sharing them on the internet will make me overthink a lot, for example, about data breaches, photo stealing, etc. Sending my work one by one to the company/ person as they request my work still becomes my favorite. It works. The other reason, I don't need to do this (for now), is because my next step is not relevant to this. So It just distracted me from my next step.

Thinking again, I’m grateful to have a circle that has different purposes and goals in life. They helped me validate myself about “it is okay to be different”. They opened my mind, to be myself and assured me that it is okay to not always join the “trend” if it doesn't relevant. 

She said, “Look at this, look at him, look at them! They did ABC.”  I am speechless because she didn’t give me time to speak rather she talked about what “we” are supposed to do (what “she” is supposed to do, I guess, because It doesn’t affect me at all since I know what I need). Ah, she knows me superficially ( I judged her, sorry) since we’re just a 4-months friend. 

I don’t know what I should do. Most of the time, she doesn't give me time to talk. She talks about herself. Even if she gives me time to talk, I am not sure she is mentally and physically listening to me.

Being a person who truly knows what you need in your real life and is not easily distracted by “9.9 promos, TikTok trends, new gossip, newest A, B, C, and D” is a blessing.

Sincerely,

Your monotone girl